Our culture is obsessed with "...having it all" and though I have known some people who have appeared to be masters at this, a closer look usually reveals that they too are questing for this balance. I'm starting to think that it's more of a juggling act than anything else. So maybe the key is realizing that you can have it all: The happy family, great job, organized life, fun experiences, fulfilling relationships and be a great wife, mom, sister, daughter, friend, teacher, entertainer, hostess, philosopher, Christian...but maybe not all at once. Maybe it's okay to have it all some of the time, and work for fewer gaping holes between the days of your life when everything seems to click together and make sense, and everyone is happy with you! Maybe.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Collecting "Firsts"

So years ago I figured out that I LOVE exposing people to new experiences. My philosophy on this is that when you share a "first" with someone, you immortalize yourself for that person in that moment. You are forever synonymous (to the person) with that event that you exposed them to. Basic Example: In highschool, one of my dear and most sheltered friends, Matt P, had never before been to Taco Bell-Finding this an atrocity, I brought him there and exposed him to the wonder of cheap, fast, mexi-cuisine. I'll never forget the giddy look on his face as he bit into that challupa...To this day (10 years later) he associates ME with Taco Bell...This is a very basic example of what I am talking about and has now morphed into a series of conversations with friends that sound something like: "WHAT?!? You've never been to NYC, Eaten Chinese Food, Been Camping, Touched A Stingray, Picked Apples, Jet Ski'd, Done a Chinese/Russian Firedrill, Been To Central Market, Seen A Silent Movie, Sang Karaoke, Been Spelunking?!?! Let's make a plan!"
I am collecting experiences, I am sharing (what I deem to be) life's simple pleasures with the people in my life, and aligning myself with their fond memories of firstishness. Once you expose someone to their "first" you own a piece of that moment, this collection will not gather dust in my basement, drain my bank account or annoy my husband (usually), and hopefully it might just add some warmth and fun to my own path, and the paths of those around me...